"Crazy people made him crazy. It was as if he personally resented them giving into madness - in part, because he so frequently labored to behave sanely. When some people gave up on the labor of sanity, or failed at it, Garp suspected them of not trying hard enough."
- John Irving (The World According to Garp)

Saturday, April 10, 2010

Melinda and the very fat, very old, very ugly day

It is a fact of life that we all have these days.

Today is mine. I made an unfortunate clothing choice and there's now photographic proof. Tank tops, why do you treat me so?

I have so much to say about this, but it's hard to wrap my brain around it in an articulate way at the moment. My weight has gone up and down over the years and recently it's gone up. I'm trying to find a way to be okay with it and just accept that this is who I am.

I want to really be able to embrace myself as I am, and to see myself for the lovely being that others proclaim me to be. I'm trying not to see myself as a fat, lazy slob. I'm trying to forgive myself for the unfortunate red tank top I chose today. I'm trying to be okay with the fact that I got myself skinny once and then gained practically every bit of it back.

This is hard.

When I lost the weight before, I was depressed. The depression wasn't related to my body, but I stopped eating. I became obsessed with becoming thin and did it in a really unhealthy way.

I don't want to do that again. I just want to be happy with myself. I don't believe that only thin people are healthy. I know that health and beauty comes in all different sizes. But I also know that I've gotten lazy and I don't take care of myself as well as I should these days.

I want to see the beautiful me that my husband sees.

This is excruciatingly hard.

Just for the record, this is not a diet blog. Please don't comment with suggestions for losing weight. If you do that, you're sort of missing the point of this post. Thanks.

3 comments:

  1. Awww - I foudn this post after your happy birthday post. I think everyone has felt this way at one time or another, so take comfort in that. I know that for me personally, when I am able to be more active I feel more healthy and that makes me more happy with myself. It's so great to hear that your hubby is so supportive and sees the beautiful you. I hope you see it sometimes too, 'cause she's there :)

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  2. I agree with you so much! Yes, when I'm active I feel better- I don't feel lazy and sluggish. This time of year I start getting my butt going so hopefully I can get rid of this feeling. I made it to the gym this weekend plus went on a nice walk with my mom. And tonight I'm going to use the new lawnmower and get some exercise working on the yard!

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  3. Woohoo - bonus points for you!

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